Top 10 myths and facts about sex toys

Did you know that over fifty-five percent of Indian women are curious to try and find out more about sex toys, as per the study by Durex?
Considering the potential lack of awareness, many myths out there need to be cleared, so in this article, we try to rationalize some of these myths with facts. 

Myth: Sex toys are illegal in India

Fact:
There’s no specific law in India that states that selling or buying sex toys or sexual wellness products is illegal in India. As long as the products are packed, marketed, and advertised in a manner that is not deemed as ‘vulgar’ or ‘obscene’, no laws are being breached. 

Myth: Sex toys are only for the single

Fact: 
Another misleading myth commonly shared in society. Sex toys are meant to enhance one’s sex life and can be used by both single and married individuals. Singles can use these sex toys in place of their partners and couples can use these sex tools to enhance their sex lives and 

add an extra kinkiness to their routine. Irrespective of one’s relationship status, sex toys are for everyone—men, women, couples, and LGBTQ and for every age limit who has crossed the legal age limit of 21 years.

Myth: Sex toys are used by couples who have problems in the bedroom

Fact: 
Sex toys are used to add that extra kinkiness to one’s sex life. Couples can enjoy their sexual activities more in a thrilling way and fulfill their fantasies. It’s like salt, without which food is tasteless. Sex toys add flavor to your sex life for sure. So the myth that they are used by couples having sexual problems in the bedroom is not true. 

Myth: Women who use toys are no longer virgins

Fact:
No, the usage of any sex toys or sensual aids such as a dildo or a vibrator won’t lose one’s virginity. A person needs to remember that virginity is tied to vaginal intercourse traditionally during sexual intercourse with another person, not to solo play for self-pleasure with a sex toy. So, what about the hymen then? Would using a dildo affect it? Well, frankly, yes, using a dildo would tear or stretch the hymen, but this doesn’t mean that the person using the sex toy would lose their virginity. Also, it's important to recognize that the condition of the hymen does not determine whether someone is virgin.

Myth: I will lose sensitivity because of sex toys

Fact:
This myth has been the usual doubt that women have whenever they use sex toys like dildos and vibrators. No proven research shows that clitoral stimulation by using sex toys would lead to desensitization permanently. It depends on what sex toys you use and how you use them, and there is a chance that you might feel slight temporary desensitization. And it’s even recommended that before using any sex toy, you need to lubricate them for smooth stimulation. 

Myth: Sex toys aren’t meant for novices 

Fact:
To try something new, you must take the initiative first. Nobody can do it for you. For instance, if you want to learn to swim, you have to jump in the water first. Nobody can swim on behalf of you. Similarly, there are several sex toys for beginners, whichever of these sex toys you decide to use, there’ll always be a first time for it.

Beginners should stick with the small sex toys that are easy to use and avoid going for the advanced sex toys that require experience in handling them. A bullet vibrator or a beat stroker would be a great choice for beginners. Until and unless a beginner uses a sex toy, they won’t get the first-hand experience of using these sex toys.

Sex toys are for everybody, irrespective of whether they are novice or experienced users. Novice people can use small-sized sex toys like vibrators or massagers to be comfortable and then opt for bigger adult toys like dildos. Remember, there’s always a first time for everything.

Myth: Conversing about sex toys would scare your partner away

Fact: 
If couples are happy in their relationship and have trust in each other, then they can openly discuss any subject. So conversing about sex toys won’t be an issue of awkwardness between them. Yes, if a couple isn’t friendly with each other, then the sex toys concept would be hard to bring up. So what can you do, and how do you talk about sex toys? In such a situation, normal talks and then slowly coming up with intimate talks can do wonders. Neither party won’t even get scary at all and the talk can be just a simple conversation. Beating around the bush and looking for a perfect time won’t help here. You need to make the conversation about sex toys in a friendly manner so that your partner can see its advantages to their sex life.

Myth: Sex toys aren’t safe to use

Fact:
As long as you buy and use high-quality brands, most of the sex toys have detailed descriptions that tell you how to use that toy. It depends on your comfort level, where you can start with small sex toys that are easy to use and are suitable for novice individuals. If you want to buy from a safe and secure online sex toy store, then check out Itspleazure and check whether the toys are made from body-friendly materials or not. Don’t buy from any shady store that sells sex toys illegally. 

Myth: Sharing sex toys with others won’t lead to STIs

Fact: 
Usually, a user assumes that they can easily share the sex toys with their partner or any friend who asks for them. But it’s highly recommended to avoid sharing these sex toys. Nonetheless, if the user wants to share their sex toys with their partner or a friend, then they need to clean the toy thoroughly to ensure that there are no bacteria or seminal fluid stuck in the toy as such. The cleaning is to be done as a method of necessary protection. For instance, if you’re using a sex toy with another person, the other person might likely get the risk of contracting STI. 

So better use condoms if you want to share your sex toys and replace them with fresh condoms every time you want to swap. Once you are done with using the sex toy, wash the sex toys with a suitable disinfectant.